What is Parenting:
It is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social and intellectual development of a child from Infancy to Adulthood.
Why do we need to redefine our parenting?
From the definition of parenting, we understand that it is a process (that is, an ongoing state), therefore, many of us cannot boast of the fact that we have achieved perfectly our roles as parents especially as our children experience transformation from one stage of development to another.
Redefining Parenting: This a process that involves the acknowledgement of your status as a parent, recognizing your potentials, identifying your abilities, consciously utilizing all of these and correcting your weaknesses in the achievement of adequate parental care towards your child.
PARENTING STYLESParenting styles usually affect the development of a child and have both positive and negative effects on a child depending on what style is being adopted by a parent. According to Diana Baumrind, a psychologist who have observed several parents, conducted interviews with them and carried out various researches about parents
She identified 4 basic styles of Parenting as follows:
1. Authoritarian Parenting
2. Authoritative parenting
3. Permissive Parenting
4. Uninvolved Parenting
Authoritarian Parenting:In this style of parenting, strict rules are given by parents which the children must follow otherwise punishment will be meted to the children. Parents usually do not give explanations of rules given to children. The following statements are common to authoritarian parents: Do exactly what I said, don’t ask me questions, you must do what I have told you, ……because I said so, etc
Authoritative Parenting :
This style combines medium level demands on the child and medium level responsiveness from the parent. Authoritative parents rely on positive reinforcement and infrequent use of punishment.
The key difference between Authoritarian and Authoritative parents is that the later involve their children in discussions and are willing to explain why a rule is in place.
Permissive ParentingParents are warm and loving. They want their children to be happy and well adjusted so they tend to give in to their children’s desires
Uninvolved ParentingParents hand off from their children’s lives. They are more bothered about their own problems.They are usually neglectful about their children’s welfare
Parenting and Temperaments
Parents and Children have different temperaments and this can affect interactions with one another.
Parents need to be conscious of their parenting methods. A parent who is able to combine different styles would be more successful as a parent than a parent who is not able to .
Let us strive towards ensuring a balanced combination of parenting styles.
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